Giving Yourself The Freedom To Be Pissed

Bad Days Happen

I think that a lot of us have our ideas a bit twisted. Many of us believe that living a peaceful life means always being calm, never becoming upset, and only producing positive thoughts. Well, I’m here to tell you that the ideas listed above are completely unrealistic. We are human beings, and by nature, we are emotional. We respond and react to things, and sometimes, we react in ways that may not be positive.

Living a peaceful life does not guarantee that you’re going to smile your way through all of life’s ups and downs. Do not let anyone tell you that you must always maintain a positive mindset. Not only is that not true, but it’s impossible.

I’ve explained in former blogs, that it is most important that we be lead by our mind and soul, and to not try to steer it in our favor. Instead, allow them to take us on their journey. With that being said, sometimes, the mind will lead us to what we consider to be a negative place, because it is trying to show or tell us something important. Pay attention to the signs. What is this reoccurring negative thought, and why is it lingering? Is this thought about something that is presently going on (remember that the mind does not travel backwards, or jump ahead unless it’s being steered)? These are types of questions that you’d want to ask yourself. The Universe will communicate with you in ways that will get, and keep your attention, when it’s trying to show you something. Don’t ignore it, because it might not be “just you“.

But…Maybe It Is Just You

A couple of days ago, I had a very bad day. Unfortunately, the day began going south in the morning. It felt as though with every passing minute, things got progressively worse. I had done everything that I know how to do, in combatting the negative thoughts that were rapidly forming. I stopped to breathe, I counted, I used my save word, I thought about the beautiful things in the world, I thought about how great it is to be loved, and how much I love myself — but to none of that worked for more than a few minutes at a time. So then, I pulled out the big guns: I thought about (and looked at pictures of) Prince, I listened to Amy Winehouse, and Jamiroquai (which has always worked, until that day). I tried so hard to check my frequency, that doing so, only frustrated me further. By 2:00pm, I was a completely unhappy and unstable person. That day was a wrap.

Call It What It Is

Deciding to wrap up the day was the best thing that I had done for myself all day. Simply telling myself to stop fighting it, and allowing myself to have a bad day, took the pressure off. It didn’t exactly make my day any better, but I no longer felt a need to change it. I said to myself, “One day. I’ll give you one day — the rest of today, to be pissed. But, tomorrow, we will not spend even one second on what is going on today, because it will no longer exist“. So that’s exactly what I did. I gave myself that day to be grumpy, angry, unbalanced, on edge, and quick tempered. I only promised myself that I wouldn’t hurt anyone — and I didn’t.

Letting go and giving myself permission to wild out had actually calmed me down. By the time that I had gone to bed, I was very relaxed. The next day, none of the prior day’s events existed anymore, and I made the most of the new day.

Life Happens

It’s okay to have a bad day. Shit happens! Life happens. And, if no one has died, everything is fixable. It’s inhuman to not respond, react, or live on autopilot, as though nothing can ever bother you. That’s a disaster waiting to happen. We have to release. As described in the example of my bad day, forcing yourself to remain positive can be very strenuous, and cause more frustration. Being positive should not add pressure to our lives.

As we practice peace and Zen, it becomes more and more natural; and before long, it’s second nature to us — and even then, there’ll be times when we’ll have to throw our hands up, and start over, tomorrow.

Your Life Is Real, Not A Meme

There are so many memes out there telling us that we need to keep a positive mindset and everything will be okay. That’s bullshit. It takes hard work to make everything okay, and in the process, things have a tendency to go horrendously awry. However, if you are honest with yourself, and you accept that things don’t always go smoothly, you’ll allow yourself to have a bad day (when you can’t change it). Accepting that you’re having a bad day does not make you a bad person. When it happens, ask yourself, “What can I learn from this situation?” There is always a lesson to be learned, regardless to whether your experience is positive or negative. Make the day count. Let it make you into a better, and more informed person.

Trust the Universe, and trust that it’s only trying to point you in the direction of your destiny. Know that it will use any tactic that is necessary to get your attention. The Universe knows that you are human, and will do human things. It’s not going to beat you up for that, as long as you are doing the right things, so you shouldn’t either. Always remain true to yourself.

“There’s nothing wrong with having a bad day. Let yourself feel the emotions because every emotion is validated.”

~Iskra Lawrence

The Journey of the Human Mind, Part 3: The Finale

Following The Lead of Mind And Soul

This is the final installation of my Journey of the Human Mind series. Throughout this series, it’s been my intent to examine mind travel, the use of words, and the use of our time. I hope that this series has inspired you all to pay attention to the things that enter our minds, and offer a different perspective of how to use and benefit from our cosmic resources — to achieve the peace of mind that is required to reach our goals, and live a more relaxed and rewarding life.

“It’s not at all fair that I feel as I do. Tell me something to make me feel better”

~Roy Ayers, “I Am Your Mind

Our minds and our souls are the most honest and powerful components of our spirit. They’re more honest and powerful than even our hearts and our brains. However, we never allow them to reach their full potential. Although our cosmic connection is tied only to our mind, soul, and spirit, we are constantly trying to train them — telling them what to do, how to feel, and what to think — even though as humans, we are not qualified to give such instructions.

The Journey of Mind And Soul

The mind and soul are on their own journey. The mission of the mind is to keep our vibrations and frequencies high by releasing serotonin into our brains which enables us to be cool, relaxed, well rested, and able to make reasonable decisions. The mind, on its own, is incapable of manufacturing negativity. When those thoughts occur, they are environmental, or self taught (usually as reactions to personal experiences). The human mind will always lead us in the direction of our purpose, as long as it is not being steered by us or other outside forces. Because we refuse to trust the power of our spirit, we are constantly trying to force it into the direction that we want it to go, based on our ideas, wants, and needs, until what once was a perfect mechanism of a perfect system, is no longer as functional as it was designed to be.

The soul houses our consciousness, morality, being, and in conjunction with the mind, our actions. It is our very essence. It’s the only part of us that will live forever.

As with the mind, we allow our souls to become congested with ideas, thoughts, and situations, that take us off of our intended courses — which is our true purpose. Outer influences can poison, as well as nourish, our souls, depending on whether we are allowing it to be steered, or if it is organically traveling in its own direction and reaching only those who are conducive to our evolution and well being. A soul left to its own devices, can only lead a body to its true purpose. It cannot be out-thought or, out-loved. Even if its true nature is suppressed for long periods of time, it’s true self is always revealed, eventually.

Let Your Spirit Be Your Guide

Masking emotions, hiding scars, and living a facade will not only prevent our true selves from reaching the souls of others, but it will also prevent accessory souls from reaching us. Since the soul is a component of our spirit, and our spirit is our connection to the Universe, it’s best not to disturb that connection. However, we do. And, then we wonder why things go wrong.

It’s not wise to selfishly try manipulate the mind and soul to work against their nature, to act in our favor. Together, the two must follow their own unique design to lead us to our divine destinations. When we act against the nature of our true beings, we become impatient, anxious, and depressed — which is counterproductive to our growth.

We spend a lot of time focusing on the worst case scenario, and unproductive thoughts, such as: memories of things that weaken our vibrations, deaths, loneliness, and other unhappy situations, instead of focusing on that which gives life –possibilities, each new day, the air, the sun, the Universe!

It’s fine to stroll down memory lane sometimes. Good memories can keep our vibrations high. However, it’s not okay to stay there. Remember, the past does not exist, and we can never go back to those times. Focusing on today, and making new memories, and meeting goals, gives life. When strolling down memory lane, STAY OUT OF THE GHETTO! The mind does not steer us there — we do!

Trust The Process

Humans are indeed obsessed with things going wrong. We can hardly enjoy the pleasant events of life without expecting the bottom to fall out. We think and speak these things into existence, and then agonize when they come to fruition. The weight and worry that we place on ourselves is unnecessary. The Universe is aware of our greatness and wants us to have the everything that we desire — love, prosperity, peace, knowledge, abundance, and happiness, but we have to stop getting in our own way. We must concentrate on that which will raise our vibrations, influence growth, feed our spirits, and provide a good source of energy.

We cannot do it by ourselves! This has been proven time and time again. We become emotional and we have a need to control things, which has a tendency to make things worse. Put your trust in your higher power, regardless of what you call him or her. Trust your spirit, mind, and soul to lead you to the path of your destiny, because you will never find on your own. And most of all, trust the process!

“In solitude the mind gains strength and learns to lean upon itself.”

~Lawrence Sterne