Cleaning Out Your Mental Space
Often in life, we come across recurring issues. Sometimes these are good issues, and sometimes, they are not. However, if we take time out to investigate the situations at hand, we might find that there are similarities in the metamorphosis of many of our dilemma’s. Once this has been discovered, it’s best to break that cycle and turn old bad habits into new good habits.
What Is The Root of Your Problem?
Pretend that your problem is a plant — even better, a weed. This weed keeps growing wild until it is not only an eyesore but you are developing an allergy to it. You’ve tried pesticides, you’ve tried cutting it down, but this has only proven to be a temporary solution. The weed keeps growing back bigger and stronger each time. The only way to get rid of this nuisance once and for all, is to kill the root.
This theory also works with human life problems. If the monster that keeps rearing it’s ugly head in your life is always attached to the same people, places and functions; it’s probably time to eliminate that source of agitation altogether. I understand that this is not always easiest to do. The root of your issue might be a family member or a co-worker — someone who is not easily removed from your life. It is still important to separate yourself from them the best way that you can. Perhaps, only dealing them when absolutely necessary. You have to do all that you can to protect your peace of mind. Moving forward, the distance could strengthen those relationships. If nothing else, it will free you of people and/or situations that hinder you from harmony and growth.
What If The Common Denominator Is YOU?
More often than not, we are victims of our own bad decisions, ways, and attitudes. We become acclimated to things, people, situations and we eventually learn to live with them. Sometimes that is necessary, but there are times when we knowingly choose to stay in situations that are bad for us.
An honest self assessment is the best way to find out if you are actually the root of all of your problems. Are you placing yourself in unhealthy situations? Do you chose to spend time around people who are not conducive to your growth? And if so, why? Are you happy with yourself? Are you a likable person? Those are a few questions to ask yourself that might reveal whether or not the problem is you. If after the assessment you find that the problem is indeed you, ADMIT IT TO YOURSELF, and search for ways to correct your personal issues. This is one of the best things that you can do for your life. Don’t fall into the mindset of “This is just how I am” — you have to be willing to change, otherwise you will continue to be the root of your own problems.
Whether the root of your problems is you or outside sources, take the time to identify the similarities, take inventory of your life, omit any unnecessary nuisances, and/or check yourself! Peace of mind is rare — take as much as you can get.
“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you.”
~ Wayne Dyer